Please Be Mindful — Missing Mom

Please be mindful of what you say about an adoptee’s birth parents and extended birth family – regardless the circumstances or how you personally feel. Remember that this person shares genes and inheritable aspects with that family of origin. From an adoptee – As a child I internalized the messages about how I was so […]Continue reading “Please Be Mindful — Missing Mom”

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Adoption and the birth certificate

https://wordpress.com/read/feeds/118482652/posts/3483139961 The birth certificate….. The birth certificate is one of the biggest topics of adoptees. Adopted parents do NOT take offense to your child being disappointed that you are listed on their second birth certificate. I would think that I am speaking for almost all of adoptees when I say we think these are fakeContinue reading “Adoption and the birth certificate”

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The Medical Questions — The Adoption Files

I just want my medical history? Maybe some pictures, so I know who I look like? But, mostly, medical history? Why does each sentence sound like a question? Because I am scared and I don’t want you to ghost me? Because our culture informs me that medical history is the only acceptable part of my […]Continue reading “The Medical Questions — The Adoption Files”

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True life adoption stories of those close to me…..why I think open adoptions are necessary

When I first found my biological mother and family my sister shared a secret in her life. Remember I just met my sister. The secret that she felt she could tell me was that she too had put a child up for adoption. I was very glad that she could share this with her siblingContinue reading “True life adoption stories of those close to me…..why I think open adoptions are necessary”

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Adoption the 3 T’s TELL THE TRUTH in adoption

Coming straight from the horse’s mouth please always be honest with an adoptee. I do not care if it is good or bad be up front as soon as your child is old enough to comprehend adoption. Tell them as much as you know. Do not lie because of your fears. Communicate with them always.Continue reading “Adoption the 3 T’s TELL THE TRUTH in adoption”

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Adopting Birth Siblings — Rosemary Lucas

Adoption is complex. Situations rarely straightforward. One thing that struck me throughout our adoption journey was just how much was outside of our control. Often our future lay firmly in the hands of people we’d never met. Decisions made from words in lengthy reports. Strangers at panel who could make or break our dreams. Another […]Continue reading “Adopting Birth Siblings — Rosemary Lucas”

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Adoptees Deserve Better

Steve Inskeep, is a co-host of NPR’s “Morning Edition” and “Up First.” He is an adoptee and an adoptive father. He penned an op-ed in the New York … Adoptees Deserve Better My adoption in 1972 was a closed adoption. Today I have had to get my birth mother and birth father to both writeContinue reading “Adoptees Deserve Better”

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