A Complicated Relationship with Love — Missing Mom

“No one has a more complicated relationship with love than a child who was adopted.” from an article in Psychology Today titled The Complicated Calibration of Love by Carrie Goldman. Children are the only ones who simultaneously crave, reject, embrace, need, challenge, inhale, absorb, return, share, fight, accept, and question your love on a daily […]Continue reading “A Complicated Relationship with Love — Missing Mom”

Finally! My adoption records!

After almost a year in a half I received my adoption records from Michigan. I needed my biological mom’s permission. I did not receive my birth certificate yet. i will have to write to the judge for that. I have to say that it gave me a sense of identity. My original name was ChristinaContinue reading “Finally! My adoption records!”

What adopted parents should NOT do

I am an adoptee. I have a few things that I strongly suggest adopted parents do not do. You want the best possible relationship with your child that you can have. As you are considering adoption or in the process of adoption you have to prepare for the fact that your child will more thanContinue reading “What adopted parents should NOT do”

A biological death in the family

As I posted a week ago I lost my brother. He was three years older than me. I always considered him my brother not my adopted brother but in order for people to understand this blog I have to call him my adopted Brother. He lives in Michigan and I live in Florida. My oldestContinue reading “A biological death in the family”

How adoption effects me.

As I started this blog I have been able to release things that I have held inside for a very long time. It has really helped me to mend wounds that I did not even realize I had. I do not want to label myself a victim but I do believe adoptees struggle every dayContinue reading “How adoption effects me.”

Twitter thread upset me yesterday.

As soon as an adoptee dares to disagree with the savior narrative woven into adoption, and specifically transracial adoption, the adoptees assumed … Twitter thread upset me yesterday. People really need to think before they speak. Do not act like you know how another’s shoes feel if you have never worn them! I am adopted.Continue reading “Twitter thread upset me yesterday.”

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