Please Be Mindful — Missing Mom

Please be mindful of what you say about an adoptee’s birth parents and extended birth family – regardless the circumstances or how you personally feel. Remember that this person shares genes and inheritable aspects with that family of origin. From an adoptee – As a child I internalized the messages about how I was so […]Continue reading “Please Be Mindful — Missing Mom”

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Poverty Is Not A Good Reason — Missing Mom

The question was asked – Should poverty be a reason to remove children from their families? Let’s be clear – the stipends the families get to care for children that are not their own biological offspring are more than large enough to help take the child’s original, natural family get out of poverty. This is […]Continue reading “Poverty Is Not A Good Reason — Missing Mom”

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Stop playing the victim in adoption

Too many times in adoption family members other than the adoptee want to play the victim. I can see some family members that missed out on the adoptees’ life because they did not know that they had a family member adopted out. For those of you, that knew the mother gave her child up forContinue reading “Stop playing the victim in adoption”

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Next Steps — The Adoption Files

“I just received my non identifying information. What do I do next?” What do you want to do? I was not asked what I wanted to do. I was asked Why I wanted to do anything at all. I was asked why finding my family mattered at all. I believe most of us have heard […]Continue reading “Next Steps — The Adoption Files”

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The shame and guilt of adoption

https://www.pactadopt.org/resources/shame-and-secrecy-in-adoption.html The Impact of Shame When a mother gives her child up she will feel guilt. A family should NOT shame these women. The guilt alone will eat a person up. I have been up front that I do not like adoption and I am still trying to understand why mothers do it but toContinue reading “The shame and guilt of adoption”

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What biological parents should know in adoption

When putting your child up for adoption please let the adopted parents know the honest details of why you are putting your child up for adoption. I would highly suggest writing a letter to your child from you explaining things to them. I think open adoption is the best for the child but the truthContinue reading “What biological parents should know in adoption”

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What biological parents should know in adoption

When putting your child up for adoption please let the adopted parents know the honest details of why you are putting your child up for adoption. I would highly suggest writing a letter to your child from you explaining things to them. I think open adoption is the best for the child but the truthContinue reading “What biological parents should know in adoption”

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True life adoption stories of those close to me…..why I think open adoptions are necessary

When I first found my biological mother and family my sister shared a secret in her life. Remember I just met my sister. The secret that she felt she could tell me was that she too had put a child up for adoption. I was very glad that she could share this with her siblingContinue reading “True life adoption stories of those close to me…..why I think open adoptions are necessary”

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Adoption the 3 T’s TELL THE TRUTH in adoption

Coming straight from the horse’s mouth please always be honest with an adoptee. I do not care if it is good or bad be up front as soon as your child is old enough to comprehend adoption. Tell them as much as you know. Do not lie because of your fears. Communicate with them always.Continue reading “Adoption the 3 T’s TELL THE TRUTH in adoption”

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The truth is a key healer in adoption

I have learned from searching many adoptions stories that those involved have had the chance to “tell their story” which has been a big part of their healing process. This has happened for adoptees, birth parents as well as adopted parents. I have seen birth mother’s finally feel a peace telling their whole story andContinue reading “The truth is a key healer in adoption”

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